THE FORTY RULES OF LOVE
by Elif Shafak
I am beguiled,
enlightened, pleased with myself. I am depressed, rapturous, empty. I am all
these things at once, and cannot begin to separate one from the other.
These were my thoughts as I finished reading 'The Forty Rules of Love' earlier today. As I was only halfway through the book, my mind was already wrapped in the cocoon of verses from Rumi and Shams of Tabriz. I'll admit that initially it took me quite some time to get my head around the story, mostly because it has been a long while since I picked up a book so deep and presenting a number of point of views throughout the story. Though the different POVs help to paint a more expansive picture of the plot, they might pose a challenge to new and infrequent readers.

The book is a
contemporary love story of a housewife, Ella and a writer, Aziz Z. Zahara,
narrated across the backdrop of the excruciatingly beauteous tale of love
between Shams and Rumi. Ella reads a manuscript, named 'Sweet Blasphemy', about
the Sufi poet Rumi and Shams of Tabriz, and sets off on a journey of finding
herself, and discovering love in the most unexpected of ways. The book is
divided into 5 parts - each depicting the 5 elements of Sufism - earth, water,
fire, wind, and the void. We are aware of all these elements, all but one - the
void. The void depicts things that are present around us through their absence.
The inexplicable and uncontrollable divine element that we as human beings
cannot comprehend and yet should always be aware of. As Ella continues with her
literary assignment, she can't help but realize the similarities between hers
and Rumi's stories. Just like Shams made ripped apart Rumi's personality, and
transformed him into an advocate of love, we see that Ella too, is liberated of
her old, unhappy self by Zahara's compassion.
Elif Shafak wrote in
a segment 'Dreaming In English' (this is separate from the novel) that absence
is actually a bond and distance can help you to look closer. Though she wrote
it for her love and connection with the English language, I can't help but connect
this phrase to the story of Rumi. Rumi was a scholar, a preacher, a faqih, but
when Shams, a wandering dervish, came into his life, as his spiritual
instructor, a guide, a companion, and much, much more, Rumi transformed into a
rare ruby. Shams challenged all that Rumi held dear, broke him down to nothing
and built him again. Throughout the book, Shams preaches about the 40 Rules of
Love, which I think, we all already know in our hearts, but are too ignorant or
wrapped up in the materialisms of the world to realize. Rumi was no poet, but
the death of his love, his Shams, filled him with poetry. Rumi says, 'My chest
is a cave where Shams is resting. Just as a mountain keeps an echo inside
itself, I hold the voice of Shams within.'
The rule that
resonated with me the most was, "Fret not where the road will take you.
Instead focus on the first step. That's the hardest part and that's what you
are responsible for. Once you take that step let everything do what it
naturally does and the rest will follow. Do not go with the flow. Be the
flow."